The past year was a very eventful one for me, there were high and low times. Today standing on the top of the hill 2008, alive, happy, full of Joy, I can say God has been very faithful.

As we begin the journey into 2009, let’s take stock of our relationships again and learn from our mistakes or achievements of the past year?

I took time to ask some people around (both single and married) this question and here are some answers……..

• Money indeed is like liquid and it takes the form you give it. If you make it a source joy in your marriage, then you run into problems when there’s scarcity of it. Money is great to have but should not be glorified above God! He (God) is the most important factor.

• Don’t let anything stand in the way of purpose. You will frustrate everyone around you (including your family) and yourself, if you fail to follow purpose.

• Forgive and Forget!

• You will need a bigger lie to cover a big lie. Never consider telling a lie as an option.

• Love is giving and giving and giving…………………………it is not selfish.

• Be a good team player, you write it in your CV all the time, now let team work begin at home.

• Don’t talk when your spouse is angry, allow the bubbles settle first. (This applies to me).

• Prayer works, there’s absolutely nothing that cannot be resolved on your knees.

• Soak yourself in the word always, it’s your sword! And don’t forget your shield, Faith!

• Always let go, God is the Master mould, He alone can change all things especially concerning your spouse and confusing situations.

• As you work on changing yourself, you will see your partner change.

• Be slow to speak, it pays to listen more and don’t speak hastily, for you cannot retrieve your words.

• Communication is very important; learn how to share your thought with one another but never during an argument.

• Do things together!

• When things back fire never say I told you. Share the pains and joys together.

• Woman, be submissive to your husband and Man love your wife.

• Seek God’s face for all things.

• Even in marriage there is personal spirituality and joint spirituality.

God help us all as we work towards making things work this year.

God Bless!

omolola ezeifeoma