| “Greater love has no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends”
I must confess that love involves having strong emotional feelings for a person and I am sure everyone appreciates this side of Love. But then it is very insufficient to say Love is only a strong emotional feeling, considering the fact that this feeling is not always there. Sometimes we are hurt deeply by the one we love and at such times the feeling is not that so called strong emotional feeling. In situations like that, do we withdraw and say I don’t love you anymore? No! Love goes beyond how we feel.
Sometimes Love is about forgetting about ourselves. Love does not seek its own. It’s about laying down one’s lives, denying one’s self pleasures, delaying pursing personal dreams and even more for the one we say we love. Laying down our lives sometimes is forsaking the hurt we feel to give way for forgiveness, in order to have the pleasure of that strong emotion again. I have even found that when we say we love a person and indeed if we love a person, we always seek restoration whenever there is a fall out.
Another very important side to loving a person is understanding that the other person is not perfect hence perfection is not to be expected. The Bible confirms the fact that we know in parts, hence whatever knowledge of the other person which led to our feelings for him or her is incomplete and one sided, sooner than later the weaknesses will begin to show. I remember something God dropped in my mind while I was courting my husband; God made me realize that He (my husband to be then) would not always do things right and in fact would make mistakes but I had to stick to him always. I think I needed to be told that by God Himself because I always expected so much from people. I am sure everyone needs to know this. Loving a person is accepting the other person through and through. Love seeks to correct wrong, that is why it does not rejoice in unrighteousness. Whenever we discover the shortcomings in our loved ones the right attitude is to seek for means to correct such. It is not an opportunity to feel better than the other person. Love is not about scoring points. I believe love is primarily a choice and only sometimes a feeling. If you want to feel love, choose to love and be patient. – Real Live Preacher, RealLivePreacher.com
I’ll leave you with this saying for this week. See you next with more on love. Love you!
– lola ezeifeoma |
2 Comments
Justus Uzim
This is a lovely presentation! Am in agreement on the point you made about love not being all about feelings or emotions. Emotions are ephemeral, flawed and therefore an inprecise measure of love. This is because emotions can easily be affected by environment, time of the day, temperament and even hormonal fluctuations in the cyclical activites of the normal body.
Uche
This is an excellent presentation. To love is ultimately a decision and it takes God to stick to it. Good enough, God is able to make all grace abound to us in this regard. Amen!